Getting ahead
Say yes to the right stretch
A quick way to take on the work you want to grow into, without letting something else quietly slip
When a request fits what you want to grow in, say yes on purpose, say why it matters to you, and say what you'll pause to make room.
- 5 minutes
- You and whoever asked
- When the right request comes
- Quick
Why this can work
The stretch work that shapes a career rarely arrives labeled as an opportunity; it usually looks like one more thing someone needs. Saying yes on purpose, and saying why, tells people what kind of work you want more of. Naming what you'll pause keeps the yes honest, so the new work doesn't grow at the expense of promises you've already made.
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You’ll come away with a yes you chose, and a clear answer about what pauses to make room.
- Check it against what you want to grow in.
Would this build a skill, a relationship or a kind of work you've been wanting more of? If you can't name what it would build, it's probably just more work.
Tip: If you've never written this down, start with the job you have: what you'd like more of, and what you wish were part of it.
- Check it against what your team needs.
A stretch that also helps your manager or team with something they care about is easier to protect, and more likely to lead somewhere.
- Choose what you'll pause.
Something on your plate has to give, even a little. Pick it yourself and give it a date. “Paused until the end of the month” is much easier to agree to than “dropped.”
- Say yes, and say why.
Tell the person asking that you'd like to do it and what it means to you. If what you're pausing affects your manager or anyone else, tell them in the same breath.
To: your managerI've been asked to the stretch request, and I'd like to say yes. It's a chance to get better at the skill you want to grow, and I think it would help the team with what it helps the team with.
To make room, I'm planning to pause what you'll pause until when. Happy to move something else instead if you'd rather.
Swap the highlighted parts for your thing. Works on Slack, in email, or said out loud. - Look back when it's done.
What did you learn, and did it build what you hoped? That answer shapes your next yes.
Good times to repeat it: when a request fits what you want to grow inwhen you've said no to everything latelywhen a new project needs an owner
Making it work for you
Every workplace is different. Here’s what to think about before you start, and what might get in the way.
Things to think about
Being asked because you're reliable is different from being asked to grow. Organizing the offsite again is a favor; presenting its results for the first time might be a stretch.
What might make this harder
Say yes to a smaller piece, like one part of the project or its first month. Or ask whether it can start when something you're doing now wraps up.
Questions people ask
Should I take on more responsibility at work?
Often yes, when it builds something you want to grow in and something else can pause to make room.
What is a stretch assignment?
Work that's a step beyond what you already know how to do, usually in an area you want to grow in. It's one of the most common ways people develop on the job.
How do I say yes to a project without overcommitting?
Say yes along with what you'll pause to make room, and tell anyone that pause affects. A yes with the trade attached is one you can actually keep.
How do I get offered more stretch work?
Tell your manager what kind of work you'd like more of, and when something close comes along, take it and say why. People offer what they know you want.
Why this works, and where it comes from
Most workload advice is about saying no, and for many people it's the right advice. But some people have learned that lesson a little too well. Guard your time so carefully that nothing new gets in, and the work that would have grown you goes to someone else. It rarely comes back labeled as the chance you missed.
From the asker's side, a request like this is usually a staffing problem. Someone needs to present the findings, run the vendor process, or pick up what a departing colleague owned. They may have no idea it's something you've been hoping to do. Saying why you want it turns their staffing problem into your development, in their eyes as well as yours, and it tells them what to bring you next time.
The part people skip is the trade. A yes that doesn't name what gives tends to get paid for quietly, in late nights or in a promise to someone else that slips. Choosing what to pause, and saying so, keeps you honest with the people you'd otherwise let down, and it's often what makes a manager comfortable with your yes.
Running on empty changes the answer. A stretch taken on while exhausted tends to go badly, and the lesson you draw is the wrong one, that you're not good at the thing. In that case, a clear no now, and a word to your manager about the kind of work you'd like when things ease, is the better way to say yes to it.
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