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How to Pick a Career (That Actually Fits You)
A long illustrated essay that treats choosing a career as a problem to reason through for yourself
Why it’s worth your time
Career choices can run on autopilot for years, and this essay is a funny, thorough case for stopping to reason it through yourself. Tim Urban, who writes the stick-figure blog Wait But Why, splits the question into what you want, sorted from what others told you to want, and what's realistically within reach, then makes the case for treating a career as a run of experiments. It ends with sheets you can print and fill in.
How to figure out what career fits you
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- Read the essay over two or three sittings.
It runs to about 15,000 words, with drawings and some swearing. The first deep dive, on your Want Box and what Urban calls your Yearning Octopus, holds most of the self-examination; the second, on your Reality Box, looks at what's realistic. The closing sections, on careers as connected dots, are the part to come back to before a move.
- Trace one career want to where it came from.
Write down one thing you want from your work, such as a title, a salary or a kind of respect. Ask why you want it, then ask why again, until you reach a reason. Note whether that reason sounds like you now, or like someone else.
Good moments for this: when you feel stuck in your careerbefore a job changeover a quiet weekend
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Making it work for you
Every workplace is different. Here’s what to think about before you start, and what might get in the way.
Things to think about
Urban's case for trying a path and adjusting can be easier to act on with some savings behind you. With heavy financial commitments, the first experiment might be a side project or a stretch assignment where you are.
What might make this harder
Urban expects this, and he's clear that living by a wise parent's or a respected friend's values is fine when you've examined them and chosen them. Talking it through with a friend can help sort which ones you'd keep.
Questions people ask
What is the Yearning Octopus?
Tim Urban's picture of everything you want from a career, split into personal, social, lifestyle, moral and practical yearnings that often pull against each other. The exercise is to work out which wants are yours and which came from someone else.
How long is How to Pick a Career by Tim Urban?
About 15,000 words plus drawings, a little over an hour of reading. Wait But Why sells a PDF version and links printable sheets for working through it on paper.
What does Tim Urban mean by careers as connected dots?
He borrows Steve Jobs's point that you can only connect the dots looking backward, and argues that a career is a series of steps you can only plan one at a time. That makes the next step lower stakes, since you'll know more by the time the one after it comes.
Is this essay career advice?
Urban says not exactly. He offers it as a framework for seeing your own situation clearly, and says he isn't a social scientist with data on which careers are better.
What it says, and how it holds up
Childhood, in Tim Urban's telling, is a river someone else chose for you, and leaving school drops you on a shore where nobody is in charge of your path but you. This 2018 essay on Wait But Why, his long-form blog of stick figures and big questions, is his attempt to help with what comes next. He builds it on an earlier idea of his: on the choices that matter most, reason like a chef inventing a recipe instead of a cook following one.
The heart of it is two boxes. One holds what you want, and Urban spends a long stretch on auditing it: list your yearnings and the fears behind them, trace each back with repeated whys, evict the ones that turn out to belong to a parent or the culture, and rank what's left. The other holds what's possible, where he argues that conventional wisdom about safe and risky careers can be decades out of date, and that progress comes down to how fast you improve and how long you keep going. Where the two boxes overlap are your real options, and the next step is to try one.
It's generous and it asks a lot. The audit is long, and its confidence about reinventing your path sits more easily in a field you can try on a small scale. He writes both for people yet to start a career and for people already working who doubt they're on the right road, and his case about what's realistic leans hardest on less conventional paths. In an ordinary job, the most useful part may be the smallest one: noticing which of your ambitions were handed to you.
If you need a decision this month, an offer to weigh or a layoff to respond to, this essay is a slow way in. A list of what you love, dislike and wish for in your current role can get you further, faster.
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