Working with others
Give people a decision deadline
A micro exercise to keep decisions moving without skipping anyone who should weigh in
When you need input on a decision, say what you plan to do, when you'll decide, and what happens if you don't hear back.
- 5 minutes
- You and the people involved
- Whenever a decision stalls
- Quick
Why this can work
Decisions stall when everyone is waiting for everyone else. Naming a date and a default turns silence into an answer, so the work can move, while giving people a clear and fair chance to object. It also shows that their input matters enough to have a deadline.
Read moreHow to set a deadline for a team decision
You’ll come away with a decision with a date on it, and a default everyone can see.
- Decide what you'd do if nobody replied.
Pick your default. If you can't name one yet, you're not ready for a deadline; you're still gathering options.
- Choose a fair deadline.
Long enough for people to read and think, short enough to keep things moving. A few working days suits most everyday decisions; bigger ones may need a week.
- Write the message.
Say what you've seen, what you think it means, and what you suggest, then the date and the default.
To: the people who should weigh inWe need to decide the decision, and I'd like to land it by date. Here's where I am and why.
What I'm seeing: the situation, in a sentence or two. What I think it means: your read. What I suggest: your recommendation.
If there are no objections by deadline, we'll go with your recommendation. If you see a problem or a better option, reply before then, here or to me directly, and we'll talk it through.
Swap the highlighted parts for your thing. Works on Slack, in email, or said out loud. - Decide on the date, and say so.
When the deadline comes, make the call and tell everyone what you decided, including any objections and how you handled them.
Tip: Keeping to the date is what makes the next deadline believable.
Good times to repeat it: whenever a decision is waiting on repliesfor any decision involving more than two peoplewhen a thread has gone quiet for days
Making it work for you
Every workplace is different. Here’s what to think about before you start, and what might get in the way.
Things to think about
Some people stay quiet because they missed the message, or because disagreeing with the manager in a group feels risky. For anyone whose view really matters, ask them directly as well.
What might make this harder
Listen anyway. If it's new information, reopen the decision openly; if it isn't, explain why you're going ahead. Deadlines are for moving, not for silencing.
Questions people ask
How do I get people to respond when I need a decision?
Give a date and a default. Say what you plan to do and that you'll go ahead unless someone objects by then, which turns silence into a clear answer instead of a stall.
Is silence consent in business decisions?
It can be, if you've said so in advance and given people a fair chance to respond. Without that, silence is just silence, and people may feel skipped.
How long should I give people to respond to a decision?
Long enough to read and think. A few working days suits most everyday decisions; bigger or harder-to-reverse ones deserve a week or more.
Why this works, and where it comes from
Plenty of decisions don't get made simply because nobody says when they will be. The thread goes quiet, everyone assumes someone else is still thinking, and the question drifts for weeks. An open question with no date on it tends to stay open. Meanwhile the work that depends on it waits, or people quietly start on their own guesses, which may not match.
A default with a date changes things for everyone involved. You can move without chasing each person. People know exactly when to speak up and what they're reacting to, which is easier than responding to a blank question. And it's fairer than it might sound: everyone gets a clear window and a concrete proposal to object to, rather than finding out after the fact.
How you frame the proposal matters. Saying what you've seen, what you think it means, and what you suggest gives people your reasoning, not only your conclusion, so they can disagree with the part they actually disagree with. An objection is only useful if people can see what they'd be objecting to. Inviting private replies helps too, because the most important concern is sometimes the one nobody wants to post in front of the team.
Decisions that change how someone's own job works, or that the person most affected might miss, deserve a conversation rather than a deadline. The same goes for anything you already know people oppose; pushing it through on silence spends trust that the next deadline will need. Save the date-and-default for the everyday calls that just need to happen.
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